I don't write thank you notes. Because when you give me a gift and I say, "Thank you!" Guess what? I JUST THANKED YOU. WITH MY VERY OWN SINCERE FACE AND VOICE. What more do you people want from me? I can barely assemble a scratch sheet of paper and writing utencil to jot down a grocery list these days. And you expect me to RE-THANK YOU for a gift you gave me for which you have already been appropriately and heartfeltly (its a word. well, it should be) thanked? COME ON!!! Thank you notes are a complete waste of time and absolutely useless. Don't ever expect one from me and please don't feel compelled to send one to this address after someone in my family has sent you or anyone in your family a gift. Especially if the gift was given during an event at which a gift would have been expected such as a birthday or socially-approved gift-giving holiday. Then a thank you note almost seems patronizing. "Just in case you didn't realize I was thanking you for this very specific gift that you gave me at the event at which I just saw you last week, an event at which gifts were fully expected (and it would have been considered a major insult had you not given me a gift during such event) here' s a letter to reiterate my undying thanks for that, once again, very specific gift. You gave. To me. Last week. When I just saw you. At that event. Thank You, Me."
Oh, and don't you eeeeven tell me that thank you notes are a quaint homage to a simpler time when manners mattered and people killed each other less and the world was a kinder, gentler place. Well, in that case let's get rid of all annoying new fangled annoyances like cars and airplanes. Lets just walk everywhere and all get typhoid and eat each other on the Oregon Trail. Wouldn't that be quaint? Maybe we could even give up our nice cozy houses with real floors, walls and a roof and hole up in some cold dark, dank caves? Our neanderthal days were simpler times for sure! Unga bunga! <-- that means "thank you" in Caveman.
And if you mail me- or anyone in the Lovetro-Rublee household- a gift you may get an email or a phone call, perhaps a text, in order to directly express my thanks. But prolly not. Because I'll forget. But I promise I super liked it! I'm just busy. And forgetful. And scatterbrianed. And more than likely I have run out of my adderall prescription. So I'm more than a bit distracted.
So in summation, you can send me a thank you note if you wanna. But it's cute mannerly quaintness will be lost on me. It's just going in the trash. What else am I supposed to do with it? Write you a thank you note for sending ME a thank you note?
No.
Thanks.
My god, woman, I swear you are IN MY HEAD!!!!!! Love it!!!!
ReplyDeleteAnd did you write scatterBRIANed on purpose? LOL!!!
Could not agree more. I HATE when people expect thank you notes. I've heard many older women in groups say that they are just NOT going to give that person a gift anymore because they didn't receive a thank you note. SERIOUSLY?! This is manners? First of all, I would never begin to remember that you were supposed to send one, so they must be keeping a list. Second, FINE, don't send me another gift. I really don't care.
ReplyDeleteAnd how did I find this post so late? Because I googled "thank you notes are stupid."
Thank GOODNESS for common sense! I hate getting thank you notes. It makes me want to call and say "Stop wasting paper."
ReplyDeleteI also googled thank you notes are stupid. And wow, are they. I got married seven months ago, it was very small and I was able to go around at the reception and thank -literally- every person there. So no, re-thanking them for coming to my wedding where they got to sit in a beautiful garden, then eat delicious food, is not happening.
And if people are only sending gifts to be thanked for doing so, then that person is awful. For me - when I give a gift, I don't want to hear "thank you", I want to hear "I love it!" Giving should be because you WANT to give, not because you expect recognition or are afraid of offending someone if you don't give one. Who wants those types of gifts? Gross!
Yes, I wholeheartedly agree. I actually googled 'thank you notes are pointless' to see if anyone else agreed. I will absolutely never do them. If I already thanked you in person then that's it.. No need to thank you again. If the gift was exceptional then I will message you privately via text. I hate when people do it because of 'tradition'.. This isn't the 18th century anymore and if people in the 18th century had technology to write notes then I believe they would have!
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